DEAR ABBY: we recently met a male we adore dearly, though we don't determine with a toys he buys for his 10-year-old son, "Dale." The child plays aroused video games and is spooky with guns to a indicate that we can't leave a residence though him bringing a fondle gun along. The video games he plays (unsupervised) are aroused and bloody and rated M (17 and over).
Dale is not mature for his age. In fact, he mostly whines when he doesn't get his way. He's authorised on a Internet though supervision, and we have walked in and hold him surfing disobedient pictures. When we told his dad, he laughed and said, "Boys will be boys!"
Abby, I'm fearful for my 6-year-old daughter. A few weeks ago, Dale motionless he wanted to play "good guys/bad guys" with her. When he grabbed my daughter in a throttle reason and hold a fondle gun to her head, she became hysterical. we have given had nightmares that Dale will find a genuine gun, consider it's one of his play guns and fire my daughter.
I consider Dale's mania is unhealthy, and we don't consider it's healthy for my daughter to be around him. How do we hoop this with my boyfriend? we adore him and would like to spend a rest of my life with him, though we can't marry him during a responsibility of my daughter. -- PARANOID AND PERPLEXED
DEAR PARANOID AND PERPLEXED: How did your beloved hoop a "good guys/bad guys" occurrence when we brought it to his attention? The answer to that doubt will yield we with discernment into his ability to primogenitor his son, and what your and your daughter's destiny will be like if we marry him. If his greeting wasn't to your satisfaction, afterwards we contingency place your child's reserve above your heart's desire, and we have assessed a conditions correctly.
DEAR ABBY: we am a porced, childless, eccentric and financially secure woman. we live happily in my upscale apartment.
How do we respond to family members, co-workers and friends who constantly ask, "Why don't we buy a residence and quit throwing your income pided profitable rent?"
I don't wish to buy a residence and be tied to a 30-year mortgage. I'm ideally happy a approach things are. What is a correct response to those questions? Saying, "I don't wish to" hasn't been enough. -- HAPPY RENTER IN HOUSTON
DEAR HAPPY RENTER: The responsibilities of home tenure aren't for everyone, and many people have satisfied it as bills for plumbers, electricians, roofers, word and skill taxes mounted up. You competence discuss that to a inquirers, nonetheless your response to your well-meaning friends, kin and co-workers should have been sufficient. A approach to change a theme would be to say, "Now, let's speak about something else."
DEAR ABBY: My 22-year-old son told me he had a quarrel with his girlfriend. Am we authorised to ask him what it was about, or if they have resolved a problem? -- CURIOUS MOM IN MONTANA
DEAR CURIOUS MOM: When your son mentioned a spat, that would have been a judicious time to ask what it was about. If we start probing now -- after a fact -- it could be construed as nosiness. If he's still saying a girlfriend, it's protected to assume a problem was resolved -- so keep your mouth shut, your eyes open and let him solve his attribute issues though involving yourself in them.
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